The ocean is not far away. But your ego is a frozen block - it needs melting. Love melts it, fear makes it more frozen, trust melts it. All that the people who are trying to find themselves have to do, is remain melted and allow the river to move on its own. You should not be the guide. The river needs no guide. Its very nature is to reach to the ocean. It is not an effort, it is its intrinsic quality.